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Inspiration – If You Look, You’ll Find It. Perspective On Life

Perspective On Life.


The end of 2020 is at our doorstep and as the year draws to a close, it’s time for reflection. I’m reminded of the expression “New Year, New You”.


 As I sat and reflected on my year and how I will do things differently, I noticed a theme in my recent conversations. Two conversations that stand out the most, to me, are of course ones I had with my parents. The first was with my father after a doctor visit had left me a little anxious and full of mixed emotions. We sat down and discussed how important it is, no matter what happens, to keep a positive and upbeat mental attitude. He tried to complement this nugget of advice by stating that if I compared myself to less fortunate people, I didn’t have it as bad. I know he meant well and wanted me to feel better about my situation. Like most parents, he just wanted to help me. His heart really is in the right place. This type of  comparison is commonplace. However, by comparing our problems to someone who has it worse, doesn’t make us feel better. It leaves us feeling like our experiences and emotions are invalid. I begin to feel guilty for having anxiety and I know for a fact that this is not what my father had intended.


 We are allowed to go through our own lows in life and feel bad. There’s nothing wrong with that. Its TOTALLY ok to honor those feelings and in doing so, release them.


The second conversation is one I had with my mother. You see my mother has quite the amazing collection of proverbs. Which she uses quite a bit to teach me and others. As a young kid a lot of them made absolutely no sense to me but as I grew older, they began to subtly become clear. Recently, she told me of a cute drawing she saw of 2020 drawn in a spooky manner and a person running from it and towards a drawing of 2021 with open arms as if ready to embrace us. Now I must preface this part by saying, my parents raised my brother and I to be extremely open minded and caring individuals. Due to this, my brother and I have delved into a variety of cultures and arts. This led us to have a sense of humor that runs the gamut of appropriate and inappropriate, light and dark, childlike and adult and even twisted or commonplace. So, having a dash of nihilistic humor, my retort to this drawing my mother spoke of, was,  “Well that doesn’t make any sense, we don’t know how 2021 will be. “Better the Devil you know, than the Devil you don’t.” I giggled aloud for using one of her proverbs.


Now I know you might be thinking “Well Rimi, these are interesting stories but how do they relate to each other?” The main thing that links these two stories is my outlook on life. That outlook is a simple reflection of who I am as a person. I’m a positive and upbeat person but its not something I can keep up 100 percent of the time.  I am grateful for it because it has definitely helped me through some of the lows in my life. Some of us have the tendency to have pessimistic outlooks on life and then were kind of stuck in that cycle of only seeing the negative. I, for one, used to be one of those people.  Our outlook on life is like a compass. If we constantly see the negative in everything, the more we guide ourselves into a negative space. If we keep a positive outlook on life, It doesn’t matter how bad the storm gets, every cloud has a silver lining. So, with the new year in front of us, let’s not start a new year with a new us. Instead let’s start the new year with the same us, but with a renewed sense of optimism. Try something new that you never thought you would like by looking at it from a different perspective. As always, be sure to tell someone you love them, and I look forward to seeing you all in the new year. I love you all so very much!

With  Love,
Rimi Duque

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